A thread to the J&H community

Discussion in 'General Discussion / Real life stuff' started by Stolas, Jan 16, 2018.

  1. Stolas

    Stolas waffles > pancakes Donator

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    It's about time that I make this. 2017 was one of the most emotional confusing years, which actually lead it to being the worst year of my (so far) short life. 2017 consisted some of my most irrational and immature threads that I have had.

    I wanted to point out before I start this, that I was stressed to pieces during my time as staff. This isn't because I was staff, it was actually me starting school which had me nervous and stressed. Taking it on the server was not the right thing to do, and I apologise.
    I was trying to fix my error, as shown here:
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    and I was right. I wasn't going to relieve those mistakes because I kept making them, later on, I just totally disregarded it (I am referring to Octobers posts, http://itsjerryandharry.com/threads/why-i-am-taking-a-break.113600/, http://itsjerryandharry.com/threads/mellow-yellow-farewell.113968/).

    Now that I am back, and active, I really want to stick by the "new year, new me" quote. While staff, yes, is on my bucket list, this is going to take time, and apologising to the community as a whole is the first "actual" step to the process.

    Let's start with when it got bad, August.
    Highlighting August, will be the LGBT thread, which was prominent in my demotion.
    http://itsjerryandharry.com/threads/lgbt-community-event.111501/ is a link if you would like to see my outburst.

    Multiple replies, yes, did set me off.
    Here are my initial responses, which aren't the actual problematic ones. These are simply replies.
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    It also appears that 11 people on average agreed with me on these, however, as the thread kept growing into this massive ball of toxic energy, it got me on edge.
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    That's a reply that was one that can set any person off, especially if you knew me in the past.
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    These are problematic. They were unsympathetic, and un-Helper like. I will still stand by how negative the thread got, I mean, seriously. It got bad, but people (including me) continued to add to the fire.
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    This reply, is not okay, and there is nothing else to say about it. Opening it with, "I'll make it more clear for you." is already a bad step. At this point, I am sure Harry has sent me a PM saying he will close the thread if I don't.

    Here is what still kind of gets me:
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    I am trying to clear the argument, but people continue to decide to put fire into the thread, and that's the reason I exploded later, which looks like this:

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    One of the last replies I made after the event ended (yes, people continued to reply) was practically telling someone to shut up, in fact I might as well have done that.

    The LGBT thread is something I am severely sorry for exploding on, I was being aggressive. I want to say that I have changed from such an aggressive way of living life.

    Despite the LGBT thread not being the only crime I committed, it's all I have time for, and it's really one of the worst crimes I had committed.

    Thank you.
    -Ex
     

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  2. Senchies

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    Idk what else you've done, but as far as the LGBT thread goes I don't see you taking much blame for it.
    Half the people there including me were being dickheads a bit on purpose. Don't blame yourself too much just because you responded to our dickheaded-ness.

    Edit: Realized I should probably also apologize about bein' a cunt on the thread, sorry man.

    New Year, New You. Gl with things boyo!
     
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  3. PopeUrbanII

    PopeUrbanII deus vult Donator

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    I was just stating my honest opinions on that thread.

    Anyways, I think lots of people already forgot about stuff like the LGBT thread, and I think bringing it up again just hurts you. Good on you for apologizing though.
     
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    Ye there were plenty of people all just giving genuine opinions. That's why I said half instead of all.
     
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